Anyone heard of a story about a girl who argued with the mom and she ran out of the house? After leaving home, she eventually became tired and hungry until she walked to a small bun stall with a rumbling tummy. The uncle who sells the bun offered free buns for the poor little girl.
Holding the buns, the girl cried and told the kind uncle everything that happened. She couldn't stop thanking the uncle for offering free food to her. She never thought she will received help from a stranger.
The old man looked at her, and said "I offered u a few buns, u already feel so thankful. How about your parents who feed and raise you for the past 17 years? Have you ever thought of thanking them?"
The words stroke the little girl immediately, that she has always been taking her precious family for granted. After munching on the buns, she thanked the uncle again and went home.
We always feel touched when an unexpected person (let it be a normal friend or stranger) lend us help just when we need it,
but often we neglect the constant care and help and love from the person who is always trying to be by our sides. The one who never give up in helping us, who never judge us, who care enough to tell us what's right and what's wrong.
We meet this guy/girl, they treat us very nice as normal friend, we were very grateful and felt very lucky to be pampered that way. We showed appreciation towards every single thing they have done for us and counted our blessing every day before sleep.
However, as the relationship started to develop, we are getting used to the constant care, love and help, ironically, instead of being constantly thankful, we start to take them for granted.
Suddenly, the love and care become just like air, we need it but just because we will never be lack of it, we never think about the consequences of losing it anymore.
We suddenly find their care redundant, we find it annoying, we even hope that we can receive less care and love because we don't find it as important and touching as we used to see it anymore. We think we can have happier life if we don't receive this much excessive care.
We slowly forget how all these start, forget what happen if we suddenly lose it, how much effort the other party is putting to continuously show this much "redundant" care despite all the reluctance and annoyance we showed them.
We are very thankful to them when normal friends cook for us once in a while. But when the person who cares for us show that they are willing to do the same, we reject their offers without showing any appreciation.
When will we learn? that people get tired too, that sometimes they just want us to be happy, to be at least appreciative with a simple "thank you" or a simple hug, that no matter how many times we turn their offer down and upset them, they still never give up on us just because they care, they don't ask for any return, they don't do it with any motive, that one day if we lose them, we might lose them forever?
When will we only learn as fast as the little girl?
I guess, we will never learn until we lose it. That's the beauty and the ugliness of a lesson.
I guess, no matter how much we try to deny it, it's human nature that as soon as we think we won't lose it, we take every wonderful thing for granted.
